{"id":13886,"date":"2016-10-31T17:26:05","date_gmt":"2016-10-31T17:26:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/transfergo.wpengine.com\/viata-in-anglia-aparente-si-prejudecati"},"modified":"2024-12-03T13:37:04","modified_gmt":"2024-12-03T13:37:04","slug":"viata-anglia-aparente-si-prejudecati","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/viata-anglia-aparente-si-prejudecati","title":{"rendered":"Via\u021ba \u00een Anglia: aparen\u021be \u0219i prejudec\u0103\u021bi"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ni se spune, \u00eenc\u0103 de c\u00e2nd suntem mici, s\u0103 nu judec\u0103m dup\u0103 aparen\u021be. Sun\u0103 ideal, dar greu de aplicat, cu liter\u0103 de lege, \u00een via\u021ba de zi cu zi, unde o mul\u021bime de factori, de la oboseal\u0103 \u0219i stres, p\u00e2n\u0103 la lipsa timpului sau a experien\u021bei de via\u021b\u0103, ne fac, de multe ori, s\u0103 judec\u0103m dup\u0103 aparen\u021be.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen str\u0103inatate,<\/strong> mai ales, unde nu te mai \u00eenv\u00e2r\u021bi \u00een cercul t\u0103u comod de cuno\u0219tin\u021be, aparen\u021bele \u0219i prejudec\u0103\u021bile te bombardeaz\u0103. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu dom’ Mihai, c\u0103 a\u0219a am ajuns s\u0103-i spun, dat\u0103 fiind diferen\u021ba de v\u00e2rst\u0103 dintre noi, am lucrat \u00eempreun\u0103 aproape dou\u0103 luni.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u0218tia c\u0103-s rom\u00e2n, eu \u0219tiam c\u0103 \u0219i el e rom\u00e2n, dar \u00een primele trei s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni nu mi-a vorbit o dat\u0103 \u00een rom\u00e2ne\u0219te, de\u0219i eram singurii rom\u00e2ni de pe site-ul de construc\u021bii. Dac\u0103 l-a\u0219 fi cunoscut \u00een urm\u0103 cu vreo trei ani, i-a\u0219 fi b\u0103tut obrazul.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

\u00centre timp, mai trec\u00e2nd prin astfel de situa\u021bii, mi-am zis c\u0103 o fi av\u00e2nd el motivele lui s\u0103 se comporte a\u0219a \u0219i c\u0103 nu m\u0103 doare gura s\u0103 respect regula impus\u0103 de el.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i, indiferent de situa\u021bie, chiar \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd nu \u0219tiam s\u0103 explic prea bine ce vreau de la el, pentru c\u0103 ne loveam de termeni tehnici, numai \u00een englez\u0103 o \u021bineam \u0219i eu.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi, c\u00e2nd n-a mai rezistat (i se parea \u0219i lui ridicol\u0103 situa\u021bia) \u0219i mi-a spus: c\u00e2nd suntem doar noi doi, hai s\u0103 vorbim \u00een rom\u00e2ne\u0219te.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi-a povestit c\u0103 venise \u00een Anglia \u00een urm\u0103 cu 12 ani, pentru compania respectiv\u0103 lucra de vreo 8 ani, c\u0103 a r\u0103mas cu ei deoarece sunt o companie serioas\u0103. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Problemele au \u00eenceput s\u0103 apar\u0103 acum vreo 3-4 ani. Am mai lucrat cu rom\u00e2ni \u0219i \u00eenainte, dar n-au fost situa\u021bii deosebite. De c\u00e2nd cu ridicarea vizelor, a venit a\u0219a un val de oameni, nici nu \u0219tiu cum s\u0103-i numesc. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ca foreman, \u0219efii \u00eemi spun: vezi c\u0103 sunt baie\u021bi de-ai t\u0103i, ia-i \u00een primire. Foarte mul\u021bi sunt neserio\u0219i, vin dou\u0103-trei zile \u0219i pleaca, nu \u0219tiu s\u0103 fie politico\u0219i, trec, se \u0219terg de tine, nu r\u0103spund la salut, mint de \u00eenghea\u021b\u0103 apele. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se uit\u0103 la tine \u0219i minte f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 clipeasc\u0103,<\/strong> c\u0103 nu el a f\u0103cut asta. Cel mai r\u0103u \u0219i mai jenant pentru mine e c\u00e2nd fur\u0103. Am ajuns s\u0103-i controlez \u0219i s\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 \u0219i la tine m-am uitat dac\u0103 ai pus la loc \u00een magazie toate sculele pe care \u021bi le-am dat. Fur\u0103 orice, de la \u0219urubelni\u021be \u0219i ciocane, p\u00e2n\u0103 la borma\u0219ini, dac\u0103 le dai ocazia. Toate astea se sparg \u00een capul meu. Nu zic c\u0103 to\u021bi, dar a\u0219a multe probleme eu n-am avut cu nimeni de aici. Iar dac\u0103 aud c\u0103 e\u0219ti rom\u00e2n, \u021bi se urc\u0103 \u00een cap, te consider\u0103 cumva dator fa\u021b\u0103 de ei<\/strong>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Normal c\u0103-i aju\u021bi, c\u0103-i mai aproape maieul dec\u00e2t c\u0103ma\u0219a, cum se spune la noi, dar s\u0103 fie oameni.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Foarte pu\u021bini mai au acei \u0219apte ani de acas\u0103. Vor totul mult \u0219i repede.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am \u00een\u021beles atunci de unde venea reticen\u021ba lui dom’ Mihai de a vorbi rom\u00e2ne\u0219te \u0219i, de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd ne \u00eent\u00e2lneam la munc\u0103, f\u0103ceam haz de necaz. M\u0103 prefaceam c\u0103 ascund \u0219urubelni\u021ba \u00een buzunar sau borma\u0219ina sub hain\u0103. Am r\u0103mas prieteni.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu Martin, un irlandez la aproape 60 de ani, am lucrat tot a\u0219a, vreo c\u00e2teva luni. Dup\u0103 primele dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, am zis c\u0103-i nebun, \u021bipa din senin, reac\u021biona ciudat, era foarte nervos. \u00cencepusem deja s\u0103-mi caut alt job. \u00centr-o zi, ploua puternic afar\u0103 \u0219i m-am ad\u0103postit \u00eempreun\u0103 cu el \u00eentr-o magazie. Cum st\u0103team am\u00e2ndoi acolo, am \u00eenceput s\u0103 vorbim despre una-alta, despre noi, despre acas\u0103, despre cum ajunsesem aici.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Eu muncesc de la 15 ani, Bob. Am 50 de ani de c\u00e2nd fac munca asta \u0219i mi-a ajuns. Pe fiu’miu, care-i n\u0103scut aici, l-am tocat zi de zi s\u0103 se \u021bin\u0103 de \u0219coal\u0103, s\u0103 nu aib\u0103 \u0219i el via\u021ba asta. A studiat calculatoare \u0219i acum are un serviciu bun aici \u00een Londra, c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 dublu fa\u021b\u0103 de mine”.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A deschis u\u0219a, s\u0103 vad\u0103 dac\u0103 ploaia s-a mai domolit \u0219i a continuat. “A fost ziua mea acum pu\u021bin timp. N-a dat nici macar un telefon. \u0218tii ce mi-a trimis? O felicitare de o lir\u0103 prin po\u0219t\u0103. M\u0103 ur\u0103\u0219te, zice ca l-am sufocat, c\u0103 i-am tocat tinere\u021bea. O s\u0103 vad\u0103 el mai t\u00e2rziu…”.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi s-a \u00eentors spre mine \u0219i mi-a spus, foarte serios.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“Noi am fost ca voi, ne-am lasat case, familii \u0219i am venit aici pentru o via\u021b\u0103 mai bun\u0103. Nu r\u0103m\u00e2ne\u021bi a\u0219a, pune\u021bi m\u00e2na \u0219i \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi c\u00e2t pute\u021bi”.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Rela\u021biile dintre noi s-au mai \u00eenc\u0103lzit de atunci. Tot un pic nebun era, dar i-am descoperit \u0219i latura amuzant\u0103. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd nu era stresat de munc\u0103, Martin era foarte amuzant. \u00centr-o zi, c\u00e2nd m\u00e2ncam ceva la o terasa de peste drum de locul unde lucram, a aparut val-v\u00e2rtej, cu o fa\u021b\u0103 foarte \u00eengrijorat\u0103. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ne g\u00e2ndeam: iar nu ne tihne\u0219te m\u00e2ncarea.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Bob, tu te pricepi la facebooku’ \u0103sta?!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Da, ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Fii atent. Din gre\u0219eal\u0103 (a \u021binut s\u0103 sublinieze asta foarte ferm) am ap\u0103sat pe ecran \u0219i am trimis o cerere de prietenie acestei domni\u0219oare (mi-a aratat poza unei domni\u0219oare la vreo 30 de ani, foarte vesel\u0103, pe o plaj\u0103).<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– A\u0219a, \u0219i?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– \u0218i a acceptat-o.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Dar care e problema, l-am \u00eentrebat, ne\u00een\u021beleg\u00e2nd dac\u0103 e o glum\u0103 sau nu.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Pai ce-o s\u0103 cread\u0103 acum despre mine?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru Martin, care era foarte nou \u00een ale facebookului, “friend request” nu era doar o simpl\u0103 op\u021biune de a-\u021bi m\u0103ri lista. El privea lucrurile ca \u00een via\u021ba real\u0103 \u0219i nu \u0219tia cum s\u0103 o scoat\u0103 la cap\u0103t, cum s\u0103 explice sau ce s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 cu noua lui prieten\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Peste pu\u021bin timp, a plecat \u00eentr-un alt loc de munc\u0103, aflat mai aproape de casa lui, \u0219i chiar i-am sim\u021bit lipsa.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

M-a sunat \u00eentr-o zi, s\u0103 ma \u00eentrebe de adresa unde locuiesc, spun\u00e2nd c\u0103 vrea s\u0103-mi trimit\u0103 ceva. Apoi a \u00eenchis, f\u0103r\u0103 alte explica\u021bii.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am primit prin po\u0219t\u0103 un pachet, \u00een care era o carte scris\u0103 de un irlandez \u00een urm\u0103 cu vreo 30 de ani. \u00cen respectiva carte, autorul povestea, a\u0219a cum facem \u0219i noi aici pe blog, fragmente din vie\u021bile imigran\u021bilor  irlandezi veni\u021bi la munc\u0103 \u00een Anglia.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Acum lucrez \u00een echip\u0103 cu Andrew. Un uria\u0219 din \u021aara Galilor, fost sportiv de performan\u021b\u0103, de aproape doi metri \u0219i 160 de kilograme. C\u00e2nd ne-am cunoscut, m\u0103 chinuiam efectiv s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg ce-mi spune. <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Avea o r\u0103ceal\u0103 puternic\u0103, aproape \u00ee\u0219i pierduse vocea, \u0219i de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00eemi spunea ceva trebuia s\u0103 repete de dou\u0103-trei ori. Se enerva \u0219i pleca sau se apuca s\u0103 fac\u0103 singur ce-mi ceruse mie.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Andrew nu prea suport\u0103 str\u0103inii”, mi-a \u0219optit cineva de pe site, de\u0219i vedeam c\u0103 avea aceea\u0219i problem\u0103 cu toat\u0103 lumea. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vr\u00e2nd-nevr\u00e2nd, munceam am\u00e2ndoi \u00eempreun\u0103, cu minimul de conversa\u021bie posibil, \u00eenc\u00e2t am devenit expert \u00een a ghici care era urm\u0103torul pas. Andrew mul\u021bumea \u00eentotdeauna, mai mult prin semne dec\u00e2t prin vorbe.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dup\u0103 vreo s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103, c\u00e2nd se mai \u00eentremase, \u0219i-a cerut scuze \u0219i mi-a spus c\u0103 s-a sim\u021bit ca naiba nu doar fizic, dar i se p\u0103rea c\u0103 ceilal\u021bi fac mi\u0219to de el \u0219i asta \u00eel enerva. “Tu ai avut prea mult\u0103 rabdare, nu \u0219tiu cum ai rezistat”.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am avut, nu pentru c\u0103 a\u0219 fi fost neap\u0103rat nevoit, dar, \u00een ciuda aparen\u021belor, am sim\u021bit c\u0103 e un om bun \u0219i nu m-am \u00een\u0219elat. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Desprins parc\u0103 din filmele cu vikings sau motocicli\u0219ti americani mul\u021bi \u00eel privesc ca pe o for\u021b\u0103 brut\u0103, un m\u00e2nc\u0103u moroc\u0103nos.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen cele 10 ore pe care le petrecem zilnic \u00eempreun\u0103, am descoperit \u00eens\u0103 un om pasionat de pove\u0219ti, de politica extern\u0103, pe care ne contrazicem zilnic, cu excep\u021bia Brexitului, despre care \u0219i el crede c\u0103 e bazat pe o mare minciun\u0103, \u0219i, mai mult dec\u00e2t toate astea la un loc, un om sensibil. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u00centr-o zi, dup\u0103 ce am terminat o munc\u0103 grea a’ naibii, eu pusesem sculele \u00een ma\u0219in\u0103 \u0219i nu \u0219tiam de ce nu apare Andrew, s\u0103 plec\u0103m. El st\u0103tea cr\u0103c\u0103nat, c\u00e2t e de mare, \u00eentr-o pozi\u021bie de artist de circ \u0219i, cu un b\u0103\u021b se chinuia s\u0103 scoat\u0103 ni\u0219te buburuze ce r\u0103m\u0103seser\u0103 blocate \u00een betonul proasp\u0103t turnat.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Cu to\u021bi cei trei men\u021biona\u021bi mai sus nu sunt prieten, doar amic. \u00cen ciuda \u00eenceputurilor reci din \u00eent\u00e2lnirile noastre, am reu\u0219it, \u0219i eu, \u0219i ei, s\u0103 trecem peste aparen\u021be, astfel c\u0103, oriunde ne-am mai \u00eent\u00e2lni de acum \u00eenainte, s\u0103 ne putem saluta \u0219i s\u0103 bem o bere \u00eempreun\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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E drept, am ales s\u0103 v\u0103 povestesc c\u00e2teva situa\u021bii \u00een care impresiile negative de la \u00eenceput nu reflectau \u0219i felul de a fi cu adev\u0103rat al oamenilor. <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Au fost \u00eens\u0103 \u0219i situa\u021bii \u00eenverse, c\u00e2nd oameni ce pareau de zahar s-au dovedit a fi foarte ieftini. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar despre acestea vorbim altadat\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Ni se spune, \u00eenc\u0103 de c\u00e2nd suntem mici, s\u0103 nu judec\u0103m dup\u0103 aparen\u021be. Sun\u0103 ideal, dar greu de aplicat, cu liter\u0103 de lege, \u00een via\u021ba de zi cu zi, unde o mul\u021bime de factori, de la oboseal\u0103 \u0219i stres, p\u00e2n\u0103 la lipsa timpului sau a experien\u021bei de via\u021b\u0103, ne fac, de multe ori, s\u0103 judec\u0103m […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":13887,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1322],"tags":[],"business_case_studies_tags":[],"class_list":["post-13886","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-viata-in-strainatate"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/20161026_203156.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13886","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13886"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13886\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13887"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13886"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13886"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13886"},{"taxonomy":"business_case_studies_tags","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/develop.wpvip.tgalpha.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/business_case_studies_tags?post=13886"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}